Life is so unexpected.

I have always been told that there are two things you are sure about in life and thats you live and you die. This is something that has hit reality recently as I have seen how unexpected things can be.

Recently a family member got taken ill and it was the most shocking thing I have ever come across. He had been fit and healthy didn’t drink and didn’t smoke but ended up dying. However, we were very lucky enough to have them brought back round. This has made me realise that you never know what can be thrown in your direction.

There is one thing for sure this put me in such a horrible place as this family member meant the world to me and couldn’t even imagine my life without them. I have ensured that I have got the help I needed which involves going to see my therapist and also speaking to the doctors to ensure that I can get all the help I need to get me through this difficult situation. As I need to be strong to support my family as they need me more now then ever.

What I’m trying to say is that you never know what life is going to bring you but you need to ensure if you need help you don’t forget to ask for it. As you never know what bad places you can end up in. You don’t want to end up causing more heartache for yourself and your family. Sometimes the hardest thing is admitting you need help, but this doesn’t mean your weak if anything it means you strong. As not everyone can ask for help! Don’t ever be ashamed, everyone needs help once in a while and it is nothing feel weak about.

I’ve had to ask for help several times and I can tell you now that I wouldn’t be here today if it wasn’t for the help and support of doctors, family, friends and therapists. I have had to overcome some very hard challenges over my 20 years of life and without the help I wouldn’t even be here today! I have become a lot stronger as result of the help and support I have been given. Not only that but they are able to help you to find ways to deal with situations which you may come across in future life.

So I just want to make sure that you don’t have to deal with these on your own!

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Is it normal to feel this way?

When dealing with such an upsetting and challenging situation you can ask yourself ‘Should I be feeling like this?’. The truth is there is no normal way to be feeling under these circumstances.

When dealing with someone taking their own life there are going to be a lot of emotions that you are going to experience some of them are;

Denial - You’re not going to be able to believe that they have done this and that the person you knew and loved wouldn’t have been so selfish to do this.

Confusion - A lot of people will be asking ‘why?’ as they won’t be able to understand why they have done this and why couldn't they come to me? Why couldn’t they have stuck it out and we all could have helped? But with this you will tend to find you won’t ever get the answer to these questions you have.

Anger - You will feel angry a lot of the time as you wont be able to understand why they wouldn't just speak to you. Also how could they put you through this pain, leave you alone to deal with the heartache and to pick up the pieces.

If you are starting to struggle with the situation I would recommend that you seek out help. As just speaking to someone and be listening to you can really be a huge help and help you to air off things which you have been keeping in for such a long time. However, the best way to deal with the situation is to try and accept the situation. But most importantly try to get on with normal day to day tasks such as washing and going out with friends. This is what will make the difference and help you to accept the situation.

Don’t ever question how you're feeling as everyone deals with situations in a different way. However, if you start to feel as though you could be a danger to yourself or anyone you need to contact your local GP.

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